If You Don’t Save Yourself Now, You’ll Hate Yourself Later
God wants us to love our neighbors as ourselves. He wants to have mercy on others, just as He does on us, and He wants us to forgive. But sometimes, enough is enough, and we have to get out of toxic relationships before we’re in too deep and we end up getting hurt. The key to protecting yourself is simple: Pay attention to those red flags.
Chances are, when someone is no good for us, we saw signs of it way before they do something explosively toxic. A friend may have warned us; we have gotten an uneasy feeling being around the person; we always seem to get into drama when the person is around. Those are warning signs that it is time to let go of that person so you can make sure you maintain your peace.
Sure, this person may actually have real feelings of love for you, but anything that costs you your peace is too expensive.
If you’re a loyal friend, it hurts you to cut people off. Never did you want to shut out that friend who uses you or manipulates you because they may really be going through something and you know they will need you soon. Well, sometimes it’s OK to put your feelings ahead of theirs if it will save you both some heartache in the end. What would be worse: your friend looking back and not finding you there, or you snapping on them one day because you’re fed up? If it’s a big enough argument, that friend won’t get a second chance. It will be just as if that person never existed. And THAT’S a terrible feeling because you have lost a relationship forever that could have ended on good terms had you paid attention to those red flags.
Gather up your strength and let the person know that you will always be there for them but you can no longer sacrifice your peace. You will not be taken advantage of. Sure, you may love that person, but be strong enough to love you more.