Forgive and Set Yourself Free
by Misha Palmer
We’ve all had our feelings hurt, heart broken or trust betrayed in unimaginable ways. Whether by a close friend, family member or partner, we’ve all experienced moments of evil doing being done to us—it’s not a great feeling. In some cases we immediately focus on trying to repay them, wanting to do unto to them as they have done to us. But that is never the route to take. As the bible says you should, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” Luke 6:31. Simply put, in all cases of deception you ought to forgive.
Forgiveness isn’t always an easy fete, but it is necessary and vital to your growth. It offers a release, the act of letting go and moving on. You can’t move freely or positively with resentment and retaliation in your heart. Those feelings tend to become like cancers, multiplying and festering into many other areas of life. It will slowly destroy you, as there’s nothing more isolating than being consumed by bitterness. Before you know it, you’re angry at everything and everyone you come into contact with. And who wants to be around someone that is always angry?
It might help to keep in mind that acts of resentment is the perfect way to block every blessing that has your name on it. You won’t see the favor of God when your priorities are fixated on being mad at what he/she has done to you. Yes, it happened. Now it’s up to you to make the conscious decision to forgive them. It’s not about feeling like doing it; it’s about freeing yourself and needing to do it.
Let’s take a look at what God says.
17 Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. 18 If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19 Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,”[a] says the Lord. 20 On the contrary:
“If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.”[b] 21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
Instead of filling your heart with bitterness, let go—de-clutter and bring some peace into your life. Like Mother Theresa said, “People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway.” If we walked around bottling up resentful emotions every time someone wronged us, where would that leave us–with no free room for love.