6 Tips to Dating After Divorce
Choosing to part ways with your spouse for unforeseen reasons, going through a divorce is never easy. It can be one of the most challenging and emotionally draining experiences ever. But life doesn’t end with the big D. For some it can be a jumpstart to something new. So while traumatic as it may be, it’s not the end of the world. So as you begin to rebuild your life one piece at a time, trying vibrating from a positive place and let these 6 simple tips help you to navigate the dating scene once again.
- Date Yourself. It’s normal to have feelings of loneliness after having been coupled up with someone for an extensive amount of time. But if can’t stand being alone with yourself, you’ll be of no good company to anyone else. Get to know you again—your likes and dislikes. Because after going through such an experience, you might have changed and you will need to get familiar with yourself again before being introduced to another.
- Don’t compare your past to your present. While you may realize that who you were once married to no longer fits the bill of your Mr. or Ms. Right, it’s never a good idea to directly compare your Ex to someone you might be interested in dating now. Be sure to live in the moment and deal with every new situation as just that, new. Allow people to show you just who they are. Of course there’s always exception to every rule. If they are showing the same abusive signs you might have dealt with in the past, be smart and run for the hills.
- Be patient in the process. Every beautiful thing takes time to cultivate and grow. You don’t ever want to rush into dating or committing to a serious relationship without solidifying a foundation of friendship first. Allow your faith to sustain and keep you at ease during this time. “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.” Romans 12:12
- Don’t give up. If at first you don’t succeed, try again. You may have needed to give up on your marriage, but that doesn’t mean you give up on find love. We all deserve to be happy and loved, so don’t allow one bad encounter, or even two to keep you from what God has in store for you. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope a future.” Jeremiah 29:11
- Make sure you are in a happy place. Life is filled with up and downs.
And sure, you may have days when you may not feel like your absolute best, but you should never date from a place of depression and loneliness. If you find yourself constantly swaddled in moments of despair, that’s a sure sign that you are not ready to date. It’s not fair to you or the person you might want to get to know. Take care of you, find your happy place and try again.
- Be open to love. Yes, letting go is hard and traumatic. But just think of it this way–often times, things have to end for something new and beautiful to begin. Also keep in mind that love comes in many different packages, so if you close yourself off to something that is unfamiliar to you, you just might miss the awesome blessing God has in store for you. “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Galatians 6:9